our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.. our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.. it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.. your playing small does not serve the world there is nothing enlighten about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.. we were all meant to shine as children do.. its not just in some of us its in everyone.. and as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.. as we are liberated from our own fear.. our presence automatically liberates others..
 - coach carter

Thursday, November 11, 2010

the one about moving on

"When the romance is gone, it's time to move on..." - Genevieve, I Hate Valentine's Day



Hearing this sentence makes me realize if this was true, then I would have no problems in relationships... If you think that the romance has been gone, then move on and look for another romance... But we have been so covered with the facts that if you love someone, you have to accept the facts in him... You have to accept his flaws and faults and still continue to love him, but when do we actually know when to move on? Is it when we think that it is not working anymore? Is it when we see someone more attractive or more romantic than our current relationship? Is it when we start to realize that we cannot stand anymore the faults of the person? When can we actually say that it is time to move on?



As I have said before, I have been with so many relationships in my life and I can no longer count as to how many are them, but I can still count as to which are very serious... To be honest, I am not the type of person who counts the lovers I had but if I were to ask as to how many serious relationships I had, I can say there are 4... 4 failed relationships... and lots of frustrated relationships... These 4 guys have made me feel the romance and all, but is it all worth it? Can I say that I am an expert in relationships? Apparently not, I am not that good when it comes to it... I know that some of my friends come to me for advice and I can give them the advice they want... If you are asking me as to where I get the advices, I can say that they are a no-brainer... Everyone knows what to do with a certain problem, it is just a matter of acceptance... I also have a problem accepting the facts but I know what to do in a relationship... If you are already in that situation, it is hard to do the right thing because we are left clinging to the fantasy brought by the relationship... So how can you actually say that it is time to move on? When will be the time to let go?



For the 4 failed relationship, only one has a big influence in my life... the 2 failed relationships have the same reason, and the other is just because he is younger than me... The influential relationship to me has been gone for 5 years now and I can say that until now, I love him... I moved on and let go, but why does the feeling still exist? Maybe because I imagined myself with him for the rest of my life. Maybe because he was the one who changed my perception in life. Maybe because he sees me differently and he loves me unconditionally. Maybe because he accepted me for who I am and not for who I become... Everything ends up with a mystery as to why the feelings exist... The romance is gone, but is it really time to move on? What in this kind of situation, what would you do? Is it really time to move on?


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